4 Tips When Moving With Your Husband

As you all know, I am recently married, and we just moved in April together! It was fun, exciting, but also very time consuming and it had the potential to become very stressful, as well. Well now we are moving once again but this time about 12 hours away. I wanted to share with all of you a few tips that will help the next person who might be moving in with their husband. I hope that these help you move with ease, stress less, and have more fun with the process - because it should be exciting and fun! Here are some of my best tips when moving with your husband:

Take The Steps To Make It “Our” Home Instead Of “Your” Home

As much as I loved my pre-marriage furniture and hated some of the furniture that my husband brought into the marriage, you have to be intentional about creating a space that represents the both of you - not just one person. Do not worry - this does not mean that you have to go out and buy all new furniture. Instead, you have to sit down, weed through your things, and compromise TOGETHER, as a team, on what to keep and what to get rid of. Is he bringing the couch? Then, how about you pick out the accent pillows. Are you keeping your heirloom dresser? Then allow him to pick the accent decor that is sitting on top of the dresser. Keep in mind that you do not have to rush the process of creating a home together through the means of decor. As you learn how to live with each other, you will get a good sense of what older pieces can stay and which need to be replaced. A home does not need to be Pinterest perfect - it should instead be a reflection of what OUR home needs to be for the both of us to feel comfortable and happy.

Healthy Conflict Resolution Is Essential

Loving your partner doesn’t mean you always agree with them, and there’s plenty to disagree on (like hanging the toilet paper upside down, or making vs. not making the bed each morning) when moving and living together - no matter if it is for the first time or tenth year living together. Early on in our relationship, we made a point to call out the behaviors that signaled destructive or dismissive communication habits, and we banned them. A simple reminder to “check your delivery” during an argument works as a call to drop our egos and focus on the goal. Even though our in-the-moment conversations didn’t always feel ideal, they set the stage for respectful disagreement in our household. 

Now that we live together, we’re even more committed to that promise as we work to maintain our home as our haven (we won’t wage war here). But, that is not always an easy task. Tough conversations are normal (and important) and receiving feedback from someone you love can feel like a personal attack - trust me, we have been there! In order to ensure our frustrations are heard and taken seriously, we employ the “listen to understand” approach. That means avoiding phrases like “you always”/“you never” and giving your spouse the floor to talk without interrupting or disputing before offering an apology or potential resolution. 

While I believe that healthy conflict resolution is essential, I also know that it’s hard and it is a work in progress - especially during a move, or while living together! Just give yourself grace and continue working towards your goal of a healthy marriage.

Check Your Budget

If you have not done so already, check your budget. What can you afford in terms of housing? What about the move? Did you consider other things like paying down debt, saving money, and spending cash? Before you pick a home and move in together, finetune your budget if you have not already done so! This will help you so much in the long-run.

Hire A Moving Company

I truly think that hiring a moving company is for everyone. It can help the young, the elderly, and even the people who feel as if they can do it all. We are a young and capable couple, so how would hiring a moving company benefit us? For starters: moving is stressful enough and it always seems like there is not enough time to do it all. Hiring a moving company can take that process off of your plate, freeing up time. In addition, yes - we may be young, but some of our stuff is HEAVY and moving it properly, quickly, and without hurting ourselves is not THE easiest task ever. Why not skip over that stress entirely? All in One Moving & Storage Inc. is a moving company in the New Jersey area that can help you if you are in the same position! They are Sussex County movers that can help with local moves, long distance moves, auto transport, storage solutions, packing supplies, and more. When you choose All in One Moving for services, they set you up with a personal relocation consultant to determine your needs and streamline your service throughout your move. I thought this was so cool! They offer options that fall within your budget and they are committed to providing you with a quote that does not have any hidden prices or fees. I also love that they include social reviews on their website. This makes it so easy to access everything without having to skip around to different websites. If you are looking for a NJ-based moving company, check them out! You can call them at (201) 773-6960.